I understand that cheaters cheat, but I want to know why. Why would someone cheat when he or she is getting everything at home? Why do lovers cheat, even after they’ve been given everything to please them? Those who have been cheated on have given up friends, family, and sometimes even another lover just to be with an infidel. Nevertheless, the daunting question remains: Why do people cheat? Furthermore, why are cheaters not satisfied with what they have?

This answer is hard to explain. The reason that people cheat is not always about sex. It is not even always about getting revenge on their lover. A majority of the time, people cheat because they just want someone there for them. Cheating is also sometimes based on convenience. Cheating is done a majority of the time unintentionally. In some instances, having two people there is more satisfying than having just one person. When having two people, when one gets you upset, you can simply go to the second person where you can get comfort and relief from the conflict.
Many people just like to feel wanted. However, there are three levels in a relationship that couples need to connect on in order to have a strong bond. Those three factors are: spiritual, physical, mental, and emotional..

Spiritually
The two individuals must agree on beliefs. If you try to stick two people with two different beliefs together, the likelihood of constant confrontation increases. The only way that two people can be together and have different spiritual beliefs is if it does not matter to either of the two individuals. Two people with no belief system do not have to worry about this level. There are couples out there who are making it work even without having this connection, but they need to really look at themselves and see how important their beliefs are to them. What priority level in their life is their belief system?

Mentally
A mental connection with someone means being on the same level as that person. You connect in education and or in knowledge. You feel as though this other person can teach you some things that you may want to know. You may feel as though you were missing that person in your life, and they make you feel complete now that you have them. An example of two people being on the same mental level would be two co-workers who have the same job at work. These two individuals are mentally connected probably because they have the same education, career, and of course, they have the same job, which they can connect on.

Physically
Two people must have a connection physically to stay together and have a better relationship. I am not just speaking about sex, but I am also speaking about the comfort of that other person. You will have to be comfortable around someone in order to want to be with that person. Being connected on the physical level sometimes takes charge over spiritual and mental connection. Some people are so caught-up in the other person physically that they do not even pay attention to the mental and spiritual levels. Being physically connected to someone has greater manipulative power over any other connection.

Emotionally
Emotions is the strongest of all four. Emotions is not a connection; it is actually what controls the connections. Emotions consist of love, hate, envy, and so on—what we would call feelings. Love is the top emotion. If you learn to control your emotions, you will have control over the spiritual, mental, and physical connections. It is important to channel your emotions into these three connections wisely. Too much of your emotions put toward forming a physical connection and you may get just that and nothing else. You may find yourself doing stupid things to satisfy your physical love. If you put all your emotions into forming a spiritual connection, you may find yourself going to church and worshipping all day. What you need to do, is learn to distribute your emotions equally. Love can cause you to do things that you never expected to do: things that you never knew you could do, and things that you didn’t want to do. Love is at the top of emotions because love is stronger than hate. Love can cause you to hate. Love can cause you to envy, to get jealous, to destroy, and even to kill. Love is a powerful tool and you should learn to control it, before it controls you.

Without a connection on all four of these levels, more than likely one person in the relationship is bound to cheat on the other. The reason for that is because every individual needs those connections met and without having one, that person is incomplete in the relationship. Spiritual, mental, and physical connections, in just that order, are the only requirements to having a successful relationship. If someone does not have all of these connections met in the relationship, they will go elsewhere to find the missing links. Even without looking, they can be unintentionally attracted to another person who has what their partner does not. If a man has a woman at home, with whom he connects spiritually and physically, but a woman at work is on his mental level, he will find himself attracted to both women because he is at a deficit in his current relationship. The previously stated connections should be taken seriously in relationships and they are not negotiable.