Why are women the main audience on talk shows, getting advice from friends, and are the majority in the church? What is it that draws these women to these locations? Why do we not see many men doing the same thing? What is it and will it ever change?

I have recently found the answer after putting some serious thought into it. What I discovered is that women seek guidance more than men do and they are more accepting of it: Part of being a good cheater is having a gullible partner. When I use the word gullible, I do not use it to mean that your partner is dumb; but that they are easily persuaded. A man hardly has to be persuaded to do anything when he knows it is necessary. A man only has to be convinced, while a woman needs to be persuaded. Persuasion is when you can give someone a little information and they are satisfied. To be convinced is to give someone every piece of information that creates a flawless plan.

A majority of women are gullible. They do not like to hear it and they are always quick to hop on the defense of anyone saying it about them. That is only because women hate to look at the truth. The problem with women in today’s world is that they are dreamers. If you can give a woman a dream, then you have given her the world. So what is the problem with this? The problem is that men are starting to know this and if a man knows his audience, then he can easily manipulate it. Look at cheating like a business. The man being the sales rep. and the woman being the customer. The man’s job is to sell his product (himself) to the customer (women). Some customers will be gullible enough to buy the product without knowing the flaws, but being persuaded by the sales rep. And others will have to know how can the product benefit them, how much does it cost, and why doesn’t everybody have one, and they are not blind just because the product looks good.

So how does a bad guy get a good girl? He feeds her dreams. He feeds her the future. He talks about what he wants out of life, what he has been through, how he has changed, and that all he needs in his life is a good woman. He wants her to believe in the dream world that he created. A man has the power to break even the strongest of women. After feeding a woman dreams, you have also given her hope for the future. This woman has been dreaming her whole life and she has learned to live for her dreams. When a man feeds her dreams, she takes her common knowledge and believes it. The problem with that, and with most females when it comes to being in a bad relationship, is that they dream more than they look at reality.

A woman who has never been in love, but has been dreaming her whole life about love, is unprepared to be hurt, but is always prepared to dream. Therefore, if someone hurts her dreams, she will be left in a sad ball of confusion. What better than for the bad guy to feed her what she lives for, which are dreams? These guys are starting to take over. Once a good girl has stopped believing in her dreams, a good guy will never get her. Well, unless of course he can make her dream again. But to do that he has to know how to talk the game women so easily fall for. But the problem with a good guy and the game is that he doesn’t know how to play it, which should be perfect for a “good woman” who also does not know how to play it. She does not like losing so she practices her win on a good guy. She looks right passed the good guys and throws them into the “friend” category. Good guys have dreams also, but those dreams are just dreams and not their only means of survival as within a bad guy. A good guy dreams but never fails to be unaccomplished in his current state. Many good guys are just being overlooked and taken advantage of because they don’t understand what they are doing wrong. They don’t understand that they actually might have to trick the woman in order to get her. In order to win, they have to realize that it’s a competition.

The only way a good girl can stop a bad guy is by not letting a bad guy speak, and seeing if he is listening. The worst cheaters do not want a woman to talk; that is the last thing that he wants. He wants to give her fake answers before she asks real questions. Women can distinguish the difference between a good guy and a bad guy just by how many questions he asks. A bad guy always talks about the future and not the present, he always uses future terms when he speaks, such as “trying to” and “going to.” The more a woman lets him talk, the more he can make her dream. That is why the bad guy always wins the talking argument, but they cannot win a fight. A good guy likes to listen; therefore, he hardly has a chance to make the women dream. Women are emotionally driven and are quick to satisfy someone else’s emotions before they satisfy even their own. Women commonly neglect themselves by caring for someone else more than they care for themselves. This is especially wrong if the woman is the one in need of attention. A cheater hardly wants a woman who cares more for herself than she does for him. It may seem okay to some women that they should care for another more than themselves, and those women are exactly the ones I am writing about.

Lets relate this to money. You can’t give something that you need for yourself. Say hypothetically that you have $500, but someone needs to borrow it. The question to ask yourself is, “do I need this money for myself, or do I have it to waste just in the case that I don’t get it back?” some people will easily give their money because they don’t need it. They have enough so that the $500 doesn’t affect them if it’s not gained back. Some may not have it, but still lend what they have anyways. Others probably need the money by the end of the month, but they still lend it. By the end of the month, they may never get it back. The person that you gave it to may say that they will pay you back, by the end of the month when you need it. But, you end up having to wait years for something that they have no intentions of giving you. You may find yourself not ever trusting anyone again, even if they are good people or not.

How this relates to relationships? If you give someone your love, are you going to get it back? Who can you trust with it? Do they have it to give back to you? When you give someone your love, you have to be sure that you have enough to give. Don’t give something that you need for yourself, or you may find yourself being hurt waiting for something that you gave away. You will find yourself never being able to trust another again with your love. The next time that you want to give your love away. First ask yourself, “do I need it for myself? If I do give it, when will I need it back? Do I have so much to give, that it won’t even affect me if I never get it back? If you find yourself giving something that you yourself may need, you will end up having to work extra hard to get it back. Because of course; your bills were due by the end of the month, so what do you do? Balance out your checkbook and be sure that you have enough next time.

You should care for others, but never lose the care that you need to give yourself in the process. You may find yourself being very unhappy and it is because you aren’t receiving care from anywhere. When all else fails, you should always have a backup love tank for yourself. If no one else is filling up your tank, then you have to make sure that you have some backup. But the thing about that, is that at some point it can run dry. So be sure not to waste it.  The only way to fill it up is to know that you love someone and they love you. Weather it be yourself, God, or family. You need to keep those individuals happy first. Not someone who is giving you one gallon while you give them five. A good man will give equal.

Instincts mean nothing in dreams. As long as a man can give a woman everything in dreams, he hardly has to give anything in reality, and this is where women go wrong. Women fail to look at reality a lot of the times, and they let go of their instincts and fall into a dream world, which is a world that exists only in dreams.

Women are great before a man corrupts them. The only problem with women is that they are so great and caring that they would give up that greatness to care for another. This is the most beautiful thing about women, and the most selfish thing about men. My smartest female friends are also my dumbest. They are everything that a woman should be, but when it comes to them getting manipulated by a man, there is no stopping it. Every woman has had that one man who knew what he was doing and she gave in to it. If they have not, then it is just that they got lucky.