Dear Doctor Lover,

I have always considered myself a caring person. I am 23 years old and always seem to get myself in long relationships where I am used. I have gotten to the point where I just don't trust my judgment on guys anymore. All I want is to find a great dependable guy to love me, get married and have kids. Why do I keep setting myself up for a fall?

Sincerely, Falling Fool

Dear Falling Fool,

I don't believe that you are setting yourself up to fall. You are simply trying to find love. It isn't something that is easy to find. You sometimes have to go through before you can get to something as great as that. The best advice I can give on finding it is to stop looking for it. Let it find you. Just relax, live and let it find you.

However, once you do get into relationships, you have to stay on your guard until you are married and sometimes even after that. I know relationships weren't meant to be that way, but with today's world, you can't truly trust anyone but yourself. Make sure that you are getting what you want and not just what you get. If you are getting used it's possibly because you aren't expecting it or you are giving too much. When it comes to men, we enjoy the hunt and the want, if you give it to us from the door, then we don't have much else to look forward to.

My suggestion is to keep your relationships new, fresh and unexpected at all times. In the meantime, don't trust anyone that is imperfect. Tie your laces and stop falling so fast and start expecting the unexpected.

~Doctor Lover