Dear Doctor Lover,

I dated a guy since I was 16 and married him at 20. He is 11 years older than me. At that time I was very young and had lots of faiths going on in my family so I was happy to marry. In the years since I've been married I was never happy and felt lonely. I progressed a lot in my career and my husband was happy to enjoy that and he didn't do anything to help me out. We have a mortgage on the house and I came to the UK to work as a nanny. Whilst in my country I worked in an office. I came here 3 years ago, having had only one man until I was 27 I had a few dates here but nothing serious, I've realized that people here only want sex, and foreigners in their mind are only for that. Now I've always been honest about my situation so I didn't hide anything, probably a turn off for any guy.

In the last 2 years I dated a guy who I didn't really love in the beginning but who made me feel loved and I learned to love him in return. However, last month it was my birthday and he was a bit of a jerk. So I looked for him on the dating site where we met and I was shocked to see he was there after telling me I'm the only one and pressing me to divorce and marry him in the summer. So I made a fake profile with a very nice picture and messaged him. He actually replied and I made it so real that we arranged a date in another city in the night we were supposed to be together. He then lied to me and told me I'll have to stay for a few hours alone because he is going to see a car in that city. That was it, I told him it's me and it's over. Now he apologized so many times for what he did and asked me to take him back but I just can't trust him.

I know my life is complicated and I can't lie about it. I'm trying to sort it out and it's working well for me but in my love life I'm just not good. I'm nice and I'm told I'm good-looking, sweet, naughty and hard working, very diligent but I find it hard to trust people.Should I stop dating for a while? Or should I take a chance at it again? tuI've been told I always made the wrong choice in love and I deserve much better maybe my self-esteem is low or I just fear being lonely. I'm curious what do u think about this, having heard so many stories.

Thank you

Sincerely, ramo