Dear Doctor Lover,

My boyfriend and I have been living together now for like one year. He is a great man, but our love life has become routine. I am not complaining, but I do not understand. He watches Girls Gone Wild all the time, and it makes me sad. I do not have large breasts like those girls, and when I have confronted him he says it is just stupid fill time.

When I asked him to go to an adult store so we can get our zing back, he says no way. I even tried to get him to come with me to Vicky Secrets to help me pick out some new sexy, and he gets mad. He tells me he hates shopping.

We are both younger he is 21, and I am 22. Our lust I feel is dying, and I don't want to lose him. I just took a new job as a waitress, and he is not happy with that. He works as a waiter, and says I will not know how to handle myself when I get hit on. How could he think that?

I am a young woman with desires, but I have not even thought of another man, but I do not know if he has thought of another woman. One of our friend couples recently had another girl join them in the bedroom, and I am not sure if he will want that too. We both go out, and like to dance and have fun. Yet I know that our love life is not what it was 6 months ago. What can we do? Help!

Sincerely, Size B Selina

Dear Size B Selina,

To answer your question. Some men do just watch porn as "fill time." I know it sounds strange, but they do and woman do the same thing. You could try to watch the porn with him and satisfy him while you're watching it. Try using your hand to satisfy him and see if that works. Some men simply like the feeling of a hand jacking-off their dick. Surprise him with some lotion and a rag ready.

You also mention that he doesn't want to go buy toys and go shopping with you. This is also common of men. The answer is to simply go by yourself and surprise him with it. If he is still attracted to you, he will hop right on you.

You're still young and so is he, so I'm sure he still has a high sex drive. Normally men who watch porn do.

As for another woman in the bedroom, you can try that also if you choose, but to be honest, I don't believe that will make your sex like stronger. It will only make his desire for other women stronger.

Nonetheless, just try taking the initiative and don't make him work too hard. A man who watches porn normally likes to be satisfied quickly and without questions. If you want role-playing and foreplay in the bedroom, it will probably be hard to find it with him.

~Doctor Lover