Dear Doctor Lover,

I am a 23 year old college student, and I have a girlfriend who is 25. We started dating one another 3 years ago and we have fallen deep into love since then. She has a child with her ex boyfriend and now she wants to get married to me. The problem is that I lost my job and no longer work and I don't believe I'm ready for that. Her ex boyfriend is also wanting her back because he says that they have a child together and he wants to work it out with her. I have been in love with her for 3 years, now what? What is left for me to do? Should I leave her or should I continue to love her. Please help me.

Sincerely, Siphosethu Manzini

Dear Siphosethu Manzini,

Based on what you are asking, it seems that the decision to leave her is not up to you, but it is up to her. The only thing that you can do is wait it out and see what she wants. If you truly love her, you can wait for her to make the decision of where she wants to be. If she is still in love with her ex and wants to leave you for him, then there isnt much that you can do about it. I would love to say that there is nothing to worry about, but because her ex is still in the picture and has so much power over her, you may be looking at packing your bags soon.

In addition, if you know you aren't ready to be married or in a serious relationship, you may want to let her go and let her move on.

Talk with her about it and see what she wants. Don't be unprepared.

~Doctor Lover