There are plenty of good reasons some women may feel as though they don't need a man. You have the women who want a man, but a man just does not want them, and therefore, they try to persuade themselves that they do not need a man. Other women have already been through the whole relationship thing, and they figured out that it is not for them. Some women just go to great measures to find a man, but when they get him, they realize that it was not worth their time. They are tired; they are fed up with almost all men; and they fix their minds to believe that all men are the same. You have the abused women. The bad-baby-daddy women. The lack-of-a-good-man-in-her-life women. The independent women. In addition, you also have low-down men who make women not trust or want a man. Then you also have some lesbians who just prefer not to deal with a man.

You also have your women who do not want a man for marriage, but they want him for the benefits of just having a companion. These couples live together but do not marry. They may have children and a home together, but they just do not put the title on anything. Some of these women may want more from the man, but she may be trying not to pressure the man into doing anything that he has not committed himself to, so she can't actually put a "my man" title on him. Most men choose to try and stay in this category because they can. In his mind, "Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free?"

Do all women need a man? Of course not. Nonetheless, most women do want a man, and to some it doesn't matter what type they get as long as they get something. It goes the same for men. I have never seen a straight man walking around saying that he doesn't want a woman, but they will however say that they don't need a woman.

Wanting to be in a relationship deals with the emotional factor for most and a mental or physical attraction to others. While some women may want a man because they don't want to be lonely, others will want a man because they like the dominance or the affection that comes with having a man. Many other reasons women may feel that they need a man may consist of: insecurity about being alone, on her own, afraid she can't cope with home and children by herself; needing a partner in parenting; religious and extended family pressure; and belief in the American dream of growing up and living happily ever after. In addition, most women are raised to feel they need a man to be complete or accepted by society.

Some women feel they don't need a man because the men aren't stepping up and giving the women a good reason to need them. With the growing society of independent women, men are less frequently playing the role of provider. In the past, men were there to be the breadwinners and fathers. However, with fewer men working and not enough good fathers, men just don't have much to offer.

The fact is that a woman is more likely to find a man that can offer her nothing than a man who can give her something. This is what is causing problems with the men who are already taken. This is also why most women are finding themselves more attracted to married men because he is a proven success. He has proven that he can take care of his household because he probably has children he takes care of. He more than likely has a car, a job, good credit, a house and bills that he successfully manages. In addition, he has a higher likelihood of not having an STD. On top of that, a married man has proven commitment.

A woman is more skeptical about a man who is not married. He probably has kids that live with their mother. He probably has an apartment or lives with someone. The only real thing that these men bring to the table is something I will mention again: false hopes and unsuccessful dreams.

Something most women don't understand is why men are the way they are. The reason that most men are not committed or successful is because they don't have to be. They grew up with independent mothers and look for the same in their women. If one woman doesn't want them or isn't fooled by their persona, another will want them. There will always be a woman right around the corner, a hop, skip and a jump away, who will want a woman's good-for-nothing man. Most men have no good reason to straighten up and be a good man. Some men don't know what a good man consists of. There are also the men who know that they aren't good enough; they want a good woman, but they just don't feel like they can give her enough for what she is worth.

The number of these men is small, but women love to believe that they make up the majority. They want to help him become better so that he can love them the way they want him to.

Most women love to believe they can change a man. In their mind, the only cure to a broken man is to fix him. They do not understand that even though they may hear it a lot, they can never change a man who does not want to be changed. Of course, there are also the men who say they want to change and whatever else they must say to keep their woman dreaming. The only problem with women trying to change men is that most of the men already see themselves as good, so they do not feel as though they need to change. In trying to change a man, a woman is likely to find herself being the one who is changing. In trying to change a man, a woman may not realize that she is more susceptible to going bad before that man is to go good.

~Doctor Lover