If a woman loves a man, he does not have to have a job. He does not need a car. He does not need a house. He can have kids, debt, bad credit, and whatever else. The only thing that we men really need to have is a conversation and a dream of success. A five-year-old boy is supposed to dream, but a man is supposed to be the outcome of those successfully completed dreams.

Women think they can point out a good man in a crowd. What they are really looking at is that he is a good conversationalist and that he carries himself well. Cheaters know the trick to the game is to manipulate the mind and especially the eyes. Some women think that a man is good even when he is not. They do not know what a good man is, but most know what a bad one is, and some are just learning. They have in their mind that since he is not like the other bad guys that they are used to being with, he is probably a good man. They convince themselves that a different man is a good man. He does not even have to be different in a good physical way. The only thing he has to have are bigger and better dreams than the man she used to be with. The man she was with before could have been a construction worker making $38,000 a year, and he was content. On the contrary, the man that she is with now is in college, but he wants to be President of the United States. So which of the two is the better man? Some women may get wistful just thinking about that. Women never want to miss out on the next “big thing,” so they let the current man pass them by while they wait around catering to a man’s dreams which are now more important than even her own. Since the man who wants to be President has bigger dreams, the woman looks past the man in reality and her attention rests right to the dreamer. That makes the dreamer, effortlessly, “the good man.”

So what is a good man? A good man is only what a woman perceives him to be in her mind. Reality holds the facts. Certain women often wonder why they are the only ones who are able to see the good man that their family and friends may not see and try to prevent them from being with. It is because reality does not show the same thing that she has manipulated her mind to see. What he used to do and what he is going to do should not matter. The only thing that counts is what he is currently doing in reality. Without the future dreams and the past success, how good is that man? They often try to figure out why there are no-good men. The answer is because the good men are being mistaken. What some women considers a good man is just the better talker and better looker. A good man shouldn’t have to convince you that he is a good man. A man should be able to show you that he is good through his reality, not his dreams.