Dear Doctor Lover,

I've been seeing this guy for more than a year now. We have become very close. We act like we are in a relationship yet we aren't officially named bf/gf. I love him. The problem is that he hasn't asked me out! He says he loves being with me but doesn't want the commitment. I have told him I'm not the type to stop him from doing anything. We are going on a holiday break in December; I want to be with him. How can I convince him that we are right together and that I can't keep getting over because he can't make the decision whether he wants to be with me or not. Please help, I'm a confused lady who is walking on eggshells!

Sincerely, Jessica

Dear Jessica,

Now here is the thing. Yes, you do want more, but the question is, WHY would he need to be your boyfriend? Yes, to you a title makes a huge difference, but to him, it's just a title that doesn't have many benefits. The great question is, "why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free?" if you two are already acting as bf/gf, he doesn't need a title. In order to fix this, you need to stop acting as a girlfriend and start acting as a woman who needs a commitment. Let him know what you want and don't settle for what you get. If he loves you are respects you enough, he will want you happy, and if having a title is what makes you happy, as a man, he should honor you and give you that respect. He isn't the only one in the relationship. To answer your question, you need to ask yourself, "WHY would HE want a title?"

~Doctor Lover