Me and my boyfriend are having problems regarding with my past. We keep on arguing and end up starting a fight because of issues happened to me before he came in my life. I am not a perfect person, not a perfect girl and not a perfect girlfriend. I have committed some mistakes and i have surely regretted everything. I used to have a wild past. I have committed sex with different men. When me and him started our relationship, he wants to know everything about me, he keeps on asking what things I have done in my life and though it feels awkward, i answered him the truth.
He's having a hard time to get over with my past. He keeps on reminding me of each one of them, asking about what positions, when, where and how many times have i committed myself with this kind of thing. i mean having sex.
We had a major fight last month and I have attempted suicide because of the pain i felt so much in my heart. It so happened that I searched a guy from my past on facebook and he knew about it and i said a white lie that I only saw his account on those PEOPLE YOU MAY KNOW.. After a week of pain and trouble, we got back together and tried to work things out.. But the problem is, he felt betrayed and he said that i broke his trust.. He also said that what I did is really a big mistake because he said, the reason why I'm viewing the guy is because I miss him or i have feelings for him which was eventually not really true..
I want to understand him and fix everything about us but we can't battle with this kind of issue every now and then.. I love him so much.. I really don't know what to do.. I don't want to take losing him or letting him go as an option even I have read thru the internet lots of problems like me and people's advice is to let go of that person which i can't really do.
I wish you could help me and give me good advice for myself and for him.. I am totally a different person now Doctor Lover, i used to drink, smoke and flirt before.. everything changed when he came.. I want to be with him for the rest of my life..
I hope i could receive your feedback asap.. Thanks!
Sincerely, Ms. Sibee
Dear Ms. Sibee,
Firstly, when a man ask about your sexual past, you should never answer that truthfully if its bad. No man wants to hear, know or think about his woman with another man. Period. Stop answering questions like that and simply reply that it doesn't matter how many men you have been with. in addition, no one is worth trying to kill yourself over, so stop thinking that way. there will always be another and if not, then live for yourself. as for you searching for this guy on FB, then your BF did have a good reason to be upset. if you do want to search for someone again, make sure that you do it more discreetly. what you need to do now is talk with him and let him know that you are trying your hardest to change for him and let him know that you do want to make the relationship last. also, let him know that in order for the relationship to work you both need to get over the past and start new with one another. both of you seem to hold on to what was and not what is. together is the only way to fix this problem.
