Doctor Lover : Love Doctor

Dear Doctor Lover,

I love your advice. I am writing to you because I need some advice. You do not even have to post this to your subscribers…I just need you to help me. My dude’s ex keeps hitting him up, even though he has made it clear that he does not want to keep in contact with her. He wants our relationship to continue to grow without our exes being in contact with us. We agreed; we do not need the baggage. We have been best friends for more than ten years and then we finally got together this year. We both understand the outcome if we allow these people to stay around. My ex knows what’s up, Doctor Lover. He stays away but this girl is a bug-a-boo. There is always something wrong with her and my man is supposedly the only one that can help her. Help me because I am getting ready to hit her up personally and give her a piece of my mind.

Signed,
Miss Ready to Step

Dear Doctor Lover,

My problem is that I have a “husband” baby daddy. I have been with him for about four years. I have had problems with him in the past—ex-girlfriend problems. The other day, she hit him up and he did not realize that I saw it. I told him about it and he does not want anything to do with her. I believe him because she has been hitting him up by email and AIM. He blocked her completely from everything. She is getting me to the point that I am going to throw one of my Reebox and show her who I am. I am trying to better myself; she is making me go back to the same old me. Should I just leave it alone and block her, or should I take action and bust her down? Not to mention that she is married and has a family of her own but she is still trying to “hold a friendship.”

Signed,
Getting Really Fed Up

Alright, calm down now. Yes, you need to relax and let it go. If she and your man broke up a long time ago, then she'll let it go soon as long as he lets her know the deal. Don't have this girl putting you in jail over some bull - I'm sure she isn't worth it. Just block her and if that doesn't stop her, then write me back and we'll figure this out the legal way.

~Doctor Lover