Dear alan, i know what your saying , Look Im going to give you the heads up, your wife is cheating on you, she also hanging out with some of her chioces friends, and talking shit! They are influencing her , and saying oh life if to short, ddadadada, and stuff like that, and if i was you, what i would of done ! The reality is that shes not happy or content with her life at this moment and want to try and venture out and try new things! SHe feels trapped like an animal in a cage- and now she resents you for putting her in that situation! You wont be the first or the last to go throught this! The fact remains- that she still will have sex with you , is pity sex. She feels sorry for you and dont want to just, up and leave ! knowing that she the guilty one! Look man , MAN UP- she doesnt want to go out, or hold hands in public with you, she telling you she thinks of you as a brother , wat type of shit is that! LOOK she wants out, she already has your replacement But hasnt come up with a good enough plan yet of letting you know! All this doesnt mean that your marriage has to end, but the more you try to save it, the more damage will be done! JUS BACK THE FUCK UP- give her , her space, she doesnt want to go out with you - fine ,no problem, she want to go out with friends fine, she wants to stay out late hours fine, let her do watever she wants! JUs let go! If there any chance for reconciliations , you would know in several months! IN THE mean time be strong, a part of being a real man is accepting the outcome , whether good or bad!